Comments on: I’m Gay: Should I Get Married? http://consideronline.org/2010/02/17/im-gay-should-i-get-married/ Read. Discuss. Enjoy Tue, 15 May 2012 02:44:43 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Alex Janke http://consideronline.org/2010/02/17/im-gay-should-i-get-married/comment-page-1/#comment-556 Alex Janke Thu, 18 Feb 2010 00:22:02 +0000 http://consideronline.org/?p=1255#comment-556 I have a lot of respect for you Parker, but on this one I'm unconvinced. I don't think it follows that we ought to get rid of an institution because it is or has been oppressive. You say that marriage is inherently exclusive - but on the outset that just doesn't seem to me like an argument for trying to get rid of it. Education is exclusive, so is policy debate - but I hardly think these things should be abolished - just reformed. I also think you kind of ignore that there could be benefits to marriage. Those benefits, whether you think they're real or not, are certainly something that many in the LGBT community believe is worth fighting for. Basically, I think that your article should address whether or not the legalization of gay marriage, compared to the status quo, is a good or bad thing. That, or your article should address whether or not the LGBT community should continue investing resources in the struggle for marriage equality. Of course we could do better than simply legalizing same-sex marriage, but I find myself on Sara's side of the aisle on this one when I say "it is still something." I have a lot of respect for you Parker, but on this one I’m unconvinced.

I don’t think it follows that we ought to get rid of an institution because it is or has been oppressive. You say that marriage is inherently exclusive – but on the outset that just doesn’t seem to me like an argument for trying to get rid of it. Education is exclusive, so is policy debate – but I hardly think these things should be abolished – just reformed. I also think you kind of ignore that there could be benefits to marriage. Those benefits, whether you think they’re real or not, are certainly something that many in the LGBT community believe is worth fighting for. Basically, I think that your article should address whether or not the legalization of gay marriage, compared to the status quo, is a good or bad thing. That, or your article should address whether or not the LGBT community should continue investing resources in the struggle for marriage equality. Of course we could do better than simply legalizing same-sex marriage, but I find myself on Sara’s side of the aisle on this one when I say “it is still something.”

]]> By: Sara B http://consideronline.org/2010/02/17/im-gay-should-i-get-married/comment-page-1/#comment-555 Sara B Wed, 17 Feb 2010 22:07:42 +0000 http://consideronline.org/?p=1255#comment-555 Cross-posted here: http://seburke.wordpress.com/2010/02/17/marriage-is-still-not-assimilation/ Cross-posted here:
http://seburke.wordpress.com/2010/02/17/marriage-is-still-not-assimilation/

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]]> By: LiberatedMind.com http://consideronline.org/2010/02/17/im-gay-should-i-get-married/comment-page-1/#comment-552 LiberatedMind.com Wed, 17 Feb 2010 21:29:49 +0000 http://consideronline.org/?p=1255#comment-552 Parker, I am also and atheist. Although I am not a homosexual, I have a great stake in the equality and human rights issue of homosexuality. Coming out of the closet as a gay man or lesbian women can be strikingly similar to the struggle of a closeted atheist living in a religious society or family circle. On marriage and partnership, I agree that marriage may not be what homosexual couples should strive for. My straight partner and I are at a stage in our relationship where marriage is appropriate, however we are considering tailoring a legal partnership without using legal marriage because it has so many financial disadvantages. Legal marriage also does not speak to our commitment. We do this daily by communicating freely, supporting each other and letting each other be an individual. Our actions in daily life and realizing our dreams together speaks louder than a legal document tying our liabilities and assets together as marriage does. You can read my thoughts on this further: http://liberatedmind.com/2010/02/15/what-could-be-better-than-marriage/ Thanks! Chrystine Parker,

I am also and atheist. Although I am not a homosexual, I have a great stake in the equality and human rights issue of homosexuality. Coming out of the closet as a gay man or lesbian women can be strikingly similar to the struggle of a closeted atheist living in a religious society or family circle.

On marriage and partnership, I agree that marriage may not be what homosexual couples should strive for. My straight partner and I are at a stage in our relationship where marriage is appropriate, however we are considering tailoring a legal partnership without using legal marriage because it has so many financial disadvantages. Legal marriage also does not speak to our commitment. We do this daily by communicating freely, supporting each other and letting each other be an individual. Our actions in daily life and realizing our dreams together speaks louder than a legal document tying our liabilities and assets together as marriage does.

You can read my thoughts on this further: http://liberatedmind.com/2010/02/15/what-could-be-better-than-marriage/

Thanks!
Chrystine

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